Today's Featured Question:
 
My wife and I had a baby seven weeks ago. The only intimacy since the birth has been a hand job that was obviously a job for her—she did it while we watched TV. Anyway, this morning she caught me masturbating in the shower. All she said was “So, taking a shower?” I was 90 percent to orgasm and stroking myself hard, so I couldn’t play it off like I was washing my genitals. I’m sure she appreciates my need for release, but does she think less of me or find me disgusting? I don’t know if I should discuss this with her or let it pass.
—J.M., Phoenix, Arizona

Answer:
 
Hang on—there’s another way to wash your genitals? Your wife sounds amused, not judgmental. We see no need to rehash. Don’t worry, things will get better; an infant saps everyone’s strength. You may want to use that age-old move known as the full-body massage—it works especially well on a new mom.

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